Thank you for answering some of the questions I had after reading Rabbi Feldman's aticle from 2005.  I guess the main issue I am still left with is, can the topic of embarrassment be expanded to include all forms of verbal abuse, based on these or other writings?

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   Larry Brooks Larry Brooks, 

   Date: Jul 6 2010

   The lecture did touch upon verbal abuse to a certain extent but I believe you called it a lesser offense.  In the case of Sexual harrassement in the workplace it can be greater offense to do it in private.  In public the harraser might be more embarassed than the victim.   Likewise with a parent verbal abusing his child, in front of adults there might be more scrutiny of the adult than the child. (Is there anyway to edit a comment once it is posted?)