Machshava:

Chassidut 

Collections: Rabbi Weinberger: Getting To Know Me

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P 227. Practical advice for the couple. Understanding the spouse's (or child's) motivation and behaviour. Not talking to each other is not a way to solve any problem - it's childish. Discovering and sharing our feelings by learning together - although this learning does not replace real conversations. If I'm working on myself, my middos (character traits), figuring out where I need to improve before I get married, then my marriage will have a much greater chance of succeeding. What is a baal avodah (somebody who works on himself)? Rushing to get married in order to have "fun." The importance of maturity and commitment in marriage. Marrital spats because of Pessach, Purim, a wedding, etc. Differences and challenges make a person grow. The need to grow up in the Beis Medrash (study hall) of life.